FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
This is YOUR session. Speak up!
Why is this so important?
If you want anything changed (pressure, areas worked, positioning, room temperature, music selection) ... speak up!
Don't worry, you will not hurt my feelings by asking for something that will make you more comfortable. I want this to be the best experience for you to relax and enjoy yourself. After all, it's a massage lol! The last situation I'd want is for you to leave the session wishing you would have spoken up about something.
Why do you specialize in "Body Positive Male Massage Therapy?" And what exactly does that mean?
Thank you for asking! I specialize in Body Positive Male Massage Therapy because while most of us may have insecurity about our bodies, larger people additionally have to deal with the public stigma and shame that accompany the internal feelings of not having the "perfect body." Larger bodies are discriminated against in almost every facet of society. Employment, housing, family dynamics, social media, fashion, entertainment, sports, and politics are just a few of the industries that unfairly judge bodies. Everyone knows this and sees this, probably on a daily basis. While I primarily have male massage clients, I work on everyone regardless of gender identity.
Being a larger person myself I have a passion for helping folks uplift their sense of self, whether it be through very specific pain-relief based therapy or mental relaxation from the stressors of life. I want you to know that Body Positive Massage Therapy is a space for you to not just be tolerated or accepted but fully welcomed with an open heart and mind.
I'm a large person and am a little insecure about about body.
You're exactly the person I want to see :) I can understand being hesitant about getting a Deep Tissue Massage. Being a larger person myself I will do whatever I can to help you feel comfortable on my table. My home studio in Astoria has an amazing Oakworks Wellspring Massage Table. It's a top of the line, sturdy table with a durable aluminum frame and wider than most massage tables. So be rest assured that your comfort is my utmost priority. Lastly, you'll always get to choose which areas of your body for me to work on. I do not do "cookie cutter" massage. Every massage is tailored to your specific needs.
I don't see any women on your website. Do you only massage men or do you massage women as well?
I massage ALL bodies :) The reason I have NOT ONLY a male massage model but a LARGE male massage model is because representation matters, right? If you don't see yourself in marketing and advertising then you will think that product/service isn't for you, am I right?
Do you only work on large people? I'm an average size person but I really want to try your style of massage.
I welcome ALL BODIES on my table.
I'm trans and have been very hesitant to get a professional massage. Have you ever worked on anyone like me?
First let me say thank you for finding me :) Being a cisgendered gay man I have no idea of your experiences but am grateful that you're interested in learning more about me and my work. To answer your question, yes I've had both trans men and trans women on my table, in addition to non-binary folks and transmasculine/feminine folks who have carved their own journey of self worth and discovery. I welcome any open dialogue to be able to help you have the best experience possible during your massage. Also feel free to shoot me an email, text, or phone call if you'd like to have a consultation to gain trust and loyalty with me. Whatever makes you feel most comfortable is all I care about.
What should I expect during my first visit?
First, I will begin by asking you general questions to establish what areas you would like worked on, if there are any medical conditions needing to be addressed, and what areas you want me to avoid. This is what we in the industry call a "verbal intake." Don't be shy: tell me about your past surgeries and injuries. I'd rather you tell me upfront than me find out 1/2 way through the session. I don't want to hurt you! Also I'm obligated to not disclose anything that happens during our session. So no, your spouse or best friend can ask but just like seeing a doctor, priest or mental health therapist they'll receive a resounding "I'm bound by a 'practitioner-client' contract."
What do I do during the session?
Nothing! That's why massages are awesome! When's the last time you did absolutely nothing?! No phone, no email, no talking, no thinking, no moving, no nothing?! Make yourself comfortable, and KEEP BREATHING. Sometimes clients will hold their breath when I'm doing deeper work. If I want you to adjust your position, I will either move you or will ask you to move what is needed. Otherwise, change your position anytime to make yourself more comfortable. Many people close their eyes and relax completely during a session, while others prefer to talk. It's up to you. It is your session and whatever feels natural to you is the best way to relax. Do not hesitate to ask questions at any time.
Isn't it nice to give yourself the license to be free from all electronic and human distractions? :)
Will the Deep Tissue Massage hurt?
With any type of massage or stretching, working through the soreness that you already have may cause some discomfort. You get to choose how intense the massage or stretch will be. I'll never take you beyond your own comfort level. A good manual therapy should always stay in the 'feels good' range.
Pain can be an indication that the muscle is possibly injured or inflamed and pressure should be adjusted. An ouch kind of pain can cause you to tighten up and negate the relaxing effects of the session. The most effective therapies always work with your body's natural response, not against it.
How often should I get a Massage?
"Some is better than none."
What does that mean? Well, it varies from person to person.
If you are rehabbing an injury, how fast do you want to recover? I'd recommend at least once/week if you have an acute injury that's really bothering you (but not too serious to go to an actual physician).
If it's a chronic injury or soreness then 2x/month may work for you.
If you are new to massage then a session every month may work for you. Frequency of sessions should be discussed with me after your treatment when I have a better hands-on understanding of your particular musculature. With Deep Tissue Massage I personally try to get a session at least every two weeks with at least 90 minutes.
Can I talk during my session?
Sure, if you'd like to talk go right ahead. The important thing to remember is that you're here to enjoy the experience. Many massage therapists discourage talking in hopes you will relax, let your mind float free and enter a state of massage bliss. Doesn't really matter to me; it's up to you.
The important issue here is that there are times when you need to speak up. If I'm doing anything to make you uncomfortable, you should let me know immediately. Also, let me know if you get too warm or too cold, if the room is too bright, or if the pressure needs to be changed (lighter or deeper). If something is not working for you - speak up! It's OK! You won't hurt my feelings ;)
Do I have to listen to whale calls or flutes during my massage?
No (not that there's anything wrong with that lol).
While many therapists play music with slow piano, bird calls or sound bowls, you can choose to have different music or no music at all.
I don't care what we listen to! I typically use Spotify so just ask for a band or genre that you're interested in, and I'll gladly switch to that. If you like a particular artist just ask. If you want pennywhistles and flutes we can do that too :)
How will I feel after my treatment?
Most people feel very relaxed. Some experience a significant decrease or freedom from long-term aches and pains. Many feel a little slowed down for a short period and then notice an increase of energy, heightened awareness and increased productivity which can last for days. With a Deep Tissue Massage you may be slightly sore the next day (much like a good workout at the gym). Sometimes a hot shower or a soak in the hot tub before you sleep that night can ease this soreness. A gentle relaxation massage shouldn't cause any pain or soreness at all.
When should I not get a massage?
In my opinion there are few conditions which would prevent you from enjoying massage. You should not book a massage if you have a fever, cold/flu, or contagious skin infection. PLEASE RESCHEDULE if you exhibit any of the symptoms associated with COVID-19 or MPOX.
There are many other conditions in which I may need to adapt my techniques (i.e. knee/shoulder replacements) or avoid an area completely (i.e. cuts, burns, or a stint). With some conditions it is a good idea to get an approval from your physician before you receive either treatment (cancer, certain heart conditions, pregnancy). This doesn't mean you can't get massage. But it's always better to err on the side of caution.
I can advise you about your specific needs.
What if I get an erection during my massage?
Sometimes it happens, yet most men avoid massage for fear this will happen to them. Or they get a massage but are unable to relax because of this fear. But there's no reason to be embarrassed; honestly it's fairly common so no worries:) It goes, up, goes down, we move on. I'm in the wrong profession if I'm uncomfortable with bodies (shrug emoji)
An educated, professional bodyworker understands this and it won't be an issue for them. If you are still concerned I can just completely avoid working on areas that may typically cause a parasympathetic response. Just let me know before we begin the session and we'll go from there.
Why is this so important?
If you want anything changed (pressure, areas worked, positioning, room temperature, music selection) ... speak up!
Don't worry, you will not hurt my feelings by asking for something that will make you more comfortable. I want this to be the best experience for you to relax and enjoy yourself. After all, it's a massage lol! The last situation I'd want is for you to leave the session wishing you would have spoken up about something.
Why do you specialize in "Body Positive Male Massage Therapy?" And what exactly does that mean?
Thank you for asking! I specialize in Body Positive Male Massage Therapy because while most of us may have insecurity about our bodies, larger people additionally have to deal with the public stigma and shame that accompany the internal feelings of not having the "perfect body." Larger bodies are discriminated against in almost every facet of society. Employment, housing, family dynamics, social media, fashion, entertainment, sports, and politics are just a few of the industries that unfairly judge bodies. Everyone knows this and sees this, probably on a daily basis. While I primarily have male massage clients, I work on everyone regardless of gender identity.
Being a larger person myself I have a passion for helping folks uplift their sense of self, whether it be through very specific pain-relief based therapy or mental relaxation from the stressors of life. I want you to know that Body Positive Massage Therapy is a space for you to not just be tolerated or accepted but fully welcomed with an open heart and mind.
I'm a large person and am a little insecure about about body.
You're exactly the person I want to see :) I can understand being hesitant about getting a Deep Tissue Massage. Being a larger person myself I will do whatever I can to help you feel comfortable on my table. My home studio in Astoria has an amazing Oakworks Wellspring Massage Table. It's a top of the line, sturdy table with a durable aluminum frame and wider than most massage tables. So be rest assured that your comfort is my utmost priority. Lastly, you'll always get to choose which areas of your body for me to work on. I do not do "cookie cutter" massage. Every massage is tailored to your specific needs.
I don't see any women on your website. Do you only massage men or do you massage women as well?
I massage ALL bodies :) The reason I have NOT ONLY a male massage model but a LARGE male massage model is because representation matters, right? If you don't see yourself in marketing and advertising then you will think that product/service isn't for you, am I right?
Do you only work on large people? I'm an average size person but I really want to try your style of massage.
I welcome ALL BODIES on my table.
I'm trans and have been very hesitant to get a professional massage. Have you ever worked on anyone like me?
First let me say thank you for finding me :) Being a cisgendered gay man I have no idea of your experiences but am grateful that you're interested in learning more about me and my work. To answer your question, yes I've had both trans men and trans women on my table, in addition to non-binary folks and transmasculine/feminine folks who have carved their own journey of self worth and discovery. I welcome any open dialogue to be able to help you have the best experience possible during your massage. Also feel free to shoot me an email, text, or phone call if you'd like to have a consultation to gain trust and loyalty with me. Whatever makes you feel most comfortable is all I care about.
What should I expect during my first visit?
First, I will begin by asking you general questions to establish what areas you would like worked on, if there are any medical conditions needing to be addressed, and what areas you want me to avoid. This is what we in the industry call a "verbal intake." Don't be shy: tell me about your past surgeries and injuries. I'd rather you tell me upfront than me find out 1/2 way through the session. I don't want to hurt you! Also I'm obligated to not disclose anything that happens during our session. So no, your spouse or best friend can ask but just like seeing a doctor, priest or mental health therapist they'll receive a resounding "I'm bound by a 'practitioner-client' contract."
What do I do during the session?
Nothing! That's why massages are awesome! When's the last time you did absolutely nothing?! No phone, no email, no talking, no thinking, no moving, no nothing?! Make yourself comfortable, and KEEP BREATHING. Sometimes clients will hold their breath when I'm doing deeper work. If I want you to adjust your position, I will either move you or will ask you to move what is needed. Otherwise, change your position anytime to make yourself more comfortable. Many people close their eyes and relax completely during a session, while others prefer to talk. It's up to you. It is your session and whatever feels natural to you is the best way to relax. Do not hesitate to ask questions at any time.
Isn't it nice to give yourself the license to be free from all electronic and human distractions? :)
Will the Deep Tissue Massage hurt?
With any type of massage or stretching, working through the soreness that you already have may cause some discomfort. You get to choose how intense the massage or stretch will be. I'll never take you beyond your own comfort level. A good manual therapy should always stay in the 'feels good' range.
Pain can be an indication that the muscle is possibly injured or inflamed and pressure should be adjusted. An ouch kind of pain can cause you to tighten up and negate the relaxing effects of the session. The most effective therapies always work with your body's natural response, not against it.
How often should I get a Massage?
"Some is better than none."
What does that mean? Well, it varies from person to person.
If you are rehabbing an injury, how fast do you want to recover? I'd recommend at least once/week if you have an acute injury that's really bothering you (but not too serious to go to an actual physician).
If it's a chronic injury or soreness then 2x/month may work for you.
If you are new to massage then a session every month may work for you. Frequency of sessions should be discussed with me after your treatment when I have a better hands-on understanding of your particular musculature. With Deep Tissue Massage I personally try to get a session at least every two weeks with at least 90 minutes.
Can I talk during my session?
Sure, if you'd like to talk go right ahead. The important thing to remember is that you're here to enjoy the experience. Many massage therapists discourage talking in hopes you will relax, let your mind float free and enter a state of massage bliss. Doesn't really matter to me; it's up to you.
The important issue here is that there are times when you need to speak up. If I'm doing anything to make you uncomfortable, you should let me know immediately. Also, let me know if you get too warm or too cold, if the room is too bright, or if the pressure needs to be changed (lighter or deeper). If something is not working for you - speak up! It's OK! You won't hurt my feelings ;)
Do I have to listen to whale calls or flutes during my massage?
No (not that there's anything wrong with that lol).
While many therapists play music with slow piano, bird calls or sound bowls, you can choose to have different music or no music at all.
I don't care what we listen to! I typically use Spotify so just ask for a band or genre that you're interested in, and I'll gladly switch to that. If you like a particular artist just ask. If you want pennywhistles and flutes we can do that too :)
How will I feel after my treatment?
Most people feel very relaxed. Some experience a significant decrease or freedom from long-term aches and pains. Many feel a little slowed down for a short period and then notice an increase of energy, heightened awareness and increased productivity which can last for days. With a Deep Tissue Massage you may be slightly sore the next day (much like a good workout at the gym). Sometimes a hot shower or a soak in the hot tub before you sleep that night can ease this soreness. A gentle relaxation massage shouldn't cause any pain or soreness at all.
When should I not get a massage?
In my opinion there are few conditions which would prevent you from enjoying massage. You should not book a massage if you have a fever, cold/flu, or contagious skin infection. PLEASE RESCHEDULE if you exhibit any of the symptoms associated with COVID-19 or MPOX.
There are many other conditions in which I may need to adapt my techniques (i.e. knee/shoulder replacements) or avoid an area completely (i.e. cuts, burns, or a stint). With some conditions it is a good idea to get an approval from your physician before you receive either treatment (cancer, certain heart conditions, pregnancy). This doesn't mean you can't get massage. But it's always better to err on the side of caution.
I can advise you about your specific needs.
What if I get an erection during my massage?
Sometimes it happens, yet most men avoid massage for fear this will happen to them. Or they get a massage but are unable to relax because of this fear. But there's no reason to be embarrassed; honestly it's fairly common so no worries:) It goes, up, goes down, we move on. I'm in the wrong profession if I'm uncomfortable with bodies (shrug emoji)
An educated, professional bodyworker understands this and it won't be an issue for them. If you are still concerned I can just completely avoid working on areas that may typically cause a parasympathetic response. Just let me know before we begin the session and we'll go from there.
