FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
This is YOUR session. Speak up!
Why is this so important?
If you want anything changed (pressure, areas worked, positioning, room temperature, music selection) ... speak up!
Don't worry, you will not hurt my feelings by asking for something that will make you more comfortable. I want this to be the best experience for you to relax and enjoy yourself. After all, it's a massage lol! The last situation I'd want is for you to leave the session wishing you would have spoken up about something.
Why do you specialize in "Body Positive Massage Therapy?" And what exactly does that mean?
Thank you for asking! I specialize in Body Positive Massage Therapy because while most of us may have insecurity about our bodies, larger people additionally have to deal with the public stigma and shame that accompany the internal feelings of not having the "perfect body." Larger bodies are discriminated against in almost every facet of society. Employment, housing, family dynamics, social media, fashion, entertainment, sports, and politics are just a few of the industries that unfairly judge bodies. Everyone knows this and sees this, probably on a daily basis.
In addition to size,
Here are the types of folks that I generally work with:
Yoga enthusiasts.
Older retirees.
Trans folks who need a safe space.
Black n brown folks looking for BIPOC representation for their mental/physical health.
Athletic types who need stretching or deep pressure sessions to balance their workout regimen.
Those in the leather/bdsm community who need a therapist knowledgeable of their lifestyle.
Men with past trauma seeking validation and comfort in a safe environment.
Being a larger person myself I have a passion for helping folks uplift their sense of self, whether it be through very specific pain-relief based therapy or mental relaxation from the stressors of life. I want you to know that Body Positive Massage Therapy is a space for you to not just be tolerated or accepted but fully welcomed with an open heart and mind.
I'm a large person and am a little insecure about about body.
You're exactly the person I want to see! I can understand being hesitant about getting a massage. Being a larger person myself I will do whatever I can to help you feel comfortable on my table. My Oakworks Wellspring Massage Table is a top of the line, sturdy table with a durable aluminum frame and wider than most massage tables. So be rest assured that your comfort will be my utmost priority. Lastly, you'll always get to choose which areas of your body for me to work on. I do not do "cookie cutter" massage. Every massage is tailored to your specific needs.
Do you only work on large people? I'm an average size person but I really want to try your style of massage.
I welcome ALL BODIES on my table.
What should I expect during my first massage therapy visit?
First, I will begin by asking you general questions to establish what areas you would like worked on, if there are any medical conditions needing to be addressed, and what areas you want me to avoid. This is what we in the industry call a "verbal intake." Don't be shy: tell me about your past surgeries and injuries. I'd rather you tell me upfront than me find out 1/2 way through the massage. I don't want to hurt you! Also I'm obligated to not disclose anything that happens during our session. So no, your spouse or best friend can ask but but just like seeing a doctor, priest or mental health therapist they'll receive a resounding "I'm bound by a 'practitioner-client' contract."
Do I have to be completely undressed?
As you can see from my photos my model doesn't have a sheet on top of him because the style of massage I do is Thai Massage. Go ahead, google "Thai Massage." You'll see photos of folks wearing gym clothes or yoga-type outfits getting stretched, pulled, pushed, and twisted. Most male-identified folks are comfortable without a shirt and just wearing shorts. Female-identified and people with breasts usually wear sports bras and some sort of gym/yoga outfit. That being said, in general I'm not in the business of policing bodies. Wear or don't wear whatever you want (shrug emogi). Your comfort is what I care most about.
Do I have to cover myself with a sheet or towel?
See the above question:)
What do I do during the session?
Nothing! That's why massages are awesome! When's the last time you did absolutely nothing?! No phone, no email, no talking, no thinking, no moving, no nothing! Make yourself comfortable, and KEEP BREATHING. Sometimes clients will hold their breath when I'm doing deeper work. If I want you to adjust your position, I will either move you or will ask you to move what is needed. Otherwise, change your position anytime to make yourself more comfortable. Many people close their eyes and relax completely during a session, while others prefer to talk. It's up to you. It is your session and whatever feels natural to you is the best way to relax. Do not hesitate to ask questions at any time.
Will the Thai Massage hurt?
With any type of massage, working through the soreness that you already have may cause some discomfort. With Thai Massage you get to choose whether you want a painless, relaxation session or a deep pressure, deep stretch session. I'll never take you beyond your own comfort level. A good manual therapy should always stay in the 'feels good' range.
Pain can be an indication that the muscle is possibly injured or inflamed and pressure should be adjusted. An ouch kind of pain can cause you to tighten up and negate the relaxing effects of the massage. The most effective therapies always work with your body's natural response, not against it.
How often should I get a massage?
"Some is better than none."
What does that mean? Well, it varies from person to person. If you are just looking for some occasional relaxation, then a session every month may be fine for you. However, if you are looking to address a specific condition, then it is recommended to go more frequently at first and then slowly taper down to a maintenance schedule. Frequency of sessions should be discussed with me after your treatment when I have a better hands-on understanding of your particular musculature. I personally try to get a massage at least every two weeks with at least a 90 minute session.
Can I talk during my session?
Sure, if you'd like to talk go right ahead. The important thing to remember is that this treatment is all about you enjoying the experience. Many therapists discourage talking in hopes that you will relax, let your mind float free and enter a state of massage bliss. In many instances people may feel more relaxed starting off the session by talking, and as the massage progresses, enter quiet states of relaxation.
The important issue here is that there are times when you need to speak up. If I'm doing anything to make you uncomfortable, you should let me know immediately. Also, let me know if you get too warm or too cold, if the room is too bright, or if the pressure needs to be changed (lighter or deeper). If something is not working for you - speak up! It's OK! You won't hurt my feelings ;)
Do I have to listen to whale calls or flutes during my massage?
No. (Not that there's anything wrong with that lol.)
While many therapists play music with slow piano, bird calls or sound bowls, you can choose to have different music or no music at all.
I don't care what we listen to! I typically use Spotify so just ask for a band or genre that you're interested in, and I'll gladly switch to that. I typically listen to a downtempo album from the artist Sunlounger. I also have an 80s/90s slow jam "Quiet Storm playlist" and an "Acoustic soul" playlist as well. If you like a particular artist just ask. If you want pennywhistles and flutes we can do that too :)
How will I feel after my treatment?
Most people feel very relaxed. Some experience a significant decrease or freedom from long-term aches and pains. Many feel a little slowed down for a short period and then notice an increase of energy, heightened awareness and increased productivity which can last for days. If you've chosen to receive a massage with deeper pressure, you may be slightly sore the next day - much like a good workout at the gym. Sometimes a hot shower, or a soak in the hottub before you sleep that night can ease this soreness.
When should I not get a massage?
In my opinion there are few conditions which would prevent you from enjoying massage. You should not book a massage if you have a fever, cold/flu, or contagious skin infection. PLEASE RESCHEDULE if you exhibit any of the symptoms associated with COVID-19 or MPOX.
There are many other conditions in which I may need to adapt my techniques (i.e. knee/shoulder replacements) or avoid an area completely (i.e. cuts, burns, or a stint). With some conditions it is a good idea to get an approval from your physician before you receive massage (cancer, certain heart conditions, pregnancy). This doesn't mean you can't get massage. But it's always better to err on the side of caution.
I can advise you about your specific needs.
What if I get an erection during my massage?
Sometimes it happens, yet most men avoid massage for fear this will happen to them. Or they get a massage but are unable to relax because of this fear. But there's no reason to be embarrassed; honestly it's fairly common so no worries:) It goes, up, goes down, we move on. I'm in the wrong profession if I'm uncomfortable with bodies (shrug emoji)
Getting erections during a non-sexual, therapeutic, full body massage is normal. You're getting a massage probably to relax, remember?? Touch administered to any part of the body can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which can result in a partial or complete erection.
An educated, professional massage therapist understands this and it will not be an issue for them. If you are still concerned I recommend wearing more fitted underwear (briefs, boxer briefs, or jockstrap) which provide more support than traditional boxers or I can just completely avoid working on areas that may typically cause a parasympathetic response. Just let me know before we begin the session and we'll go from there.
Why is this so important?
If you want anything changed (pressure, areas worked, positioning, room temperature, music selection) ... speak up!
Don't worry, you will not hurt my feelings by asking for something that will make you more comfortable. I want this to be the best experience for you to relax and enjoy yourself. After all, it's a massage lol! The last situation I'd want is for you to leave the session wishing you would have spoken up about something.
Why do you specialize in "Body Positive Massage Therapy?" And what exactly does that mean?
Thank you for asking! I specialize in Body Positive Massage Therapy because while most of us may have insecurity about our bodies, larger people additionally have to deal with the public stigma and shame that accompany the internal feelings of not having the "perfect body." Larger bodies are discriminated against in almost every facet of society. Employment, housing, family dynamics, social media, fashion, entertainment, sports, and politics are just a few of the industries that unfairly judge bodies. Everyone knows this and sees this, probably on a daily basis.
In addition to size,
Here are the types of folks that I generally work with:
Yoga enthusiasts.
Older retirees.
Trans folks who need a safe space.
Black n brown folks looking for BIPOC representation for their mental/physical health.
Athletic types who need stretching or deep pressure sessions to balance their workout regimen.
Those in the leather/bdsm community who need a therapist knowledgeable of their lifestyle.
Men with past trauma seeking validation and comfort in a safe environment.
Being a larger person myself I have a passion for helping folks uplift their sense of self, whether it be through very specific pain-relief based therapy or mental relaxation from the stressors of life. I want you to know that Body Positive Massage Therapy is a space for you to not just be tolerated or accepted but fully welcomed with an open heart and mind.
I'm a large person and am a little insecure about about body.
You're exactly the person I want to see! I can understand being hesitant about getting a massage. Being a larger person myself I will do whatever I can to help you feel comfortable on my table. My Oakworks Wellspring Massage Table is a top of the line, sturdy table with a durable aluminum frame and wider than most massage tables. So be rest assured that your comfort will be my utmost priority. Lastly, you'll always get to choose which areas of your body for me to work on. I do not do "cookie cutter" massage. Every massage is tailored to your specific needs.
Do you only work on large people? I'm an average size person but I really want to try your style of massage.
I welcome ALL BODIES on my table.
What should I expect during my first massage therapy visit?
First, I will begin by asking you general questions to establish what areas you would like worked on, if there are any medical conditions needing to be addressed, and what areas you want me to avoid. This is what we in the industry call a "verbal intake." Don't be shy: tell me about your past surgeries and injuries. I'd rather you tell me upfront than me find out 1/2 way through the massage. I don't want to hurt you! Also I'm obligated to not disclose anything that happens during our session. So no, your spouse or best friend can ask but but just like seeing a doctor, priest or mental health therapist they'll receive a resounding "I'm bound by a 'practitioner-client' contract."
Do I have to be completely undressed?
As you can see from my photos my model doesn't have a sheet on top of him because the style of massage I do is Thai Massage. Go ahead, google "Thai Massage." You'll see photos of folks wearing gym clothes or yoga-type outfits getting stretched, pulled, pushed, and twisted. Most male-identified folks are comfortable without a shirt and just wearing shorts. Female-identified and people with breasts usually wear sports bras and some sort of gym/yoga outfit. That being said, in general I'm not in the business of policing bodies. Wear or don't wear whatever you want (shrug emogi). Your comfort is what I care most about.
Do I have to cover myself with a sheet or towel?
See the above question:)
What do I do during the session?
Nothing! That's why massages are awesome! When's the last time you did absolutely nothing?! No phone, no email, no talking, no thinking, no moving, no nothing! Make yourself comfortable, and KEEP BREATHING. Sometimes clients will hold their breath when I'm doing deeper work. If I want you to adjust your position, I will either move you or will ask you to move what is needed. Otherwise, change your position anytime to make yourself more comfortable. Many people close their eyes and relax completely during a session, while others prefer to talk. It's up to you. It is your session and whatever feels natural to you is the best way to relax. Do not hesitate to ask questions at any time.
Will the Thai Massage hurt?
With any type of massage, working through the soreness that you already have may cause some discomfort. With Thai Massage you get to choose whether you want a painless, relaxation session or a deep pressure, deep stretch session. I'll never take you beyond your own comfort level. A good manual therapy should always stay in the 'feels good' range.
Pain can be an indication that the muscle is possibly injured or inflamed and pressure should be adjusted. An ouch kind of pain can cause you to tighten up and negate the relaxing effects of the massage. The most effective therapies always work with your body's natural response, not against it.
How often should I get a massage?
"Some is better than none."
What does that mean? Well, it varies from person to person. If you are just looking for some occasional relaxation, then a session every month may be fine for you. However, if you are looking to address a specific condition, then it is recommended to go more frequently at first and then slowly taper down to a maintenance schedule. Frequency of sessions should be discussed with me after your treatment when I have a better hands-on understanding of your particular musculature. I personally try to get a massage at least every two weeks with at least a 90 minute session.
Can I talk during my session?
Sure, if you'd like to talk go right ahead. The important thing to remember is that this treatment is all about you enjoying the experience. Many therapists discourage talking in hopes that you will relax, let your mind float free and enter a state of massage bliss. In many instances people may feel more relaxed starting off the session by talking, and as the massage progresses, enter quiet states of relaxation.
The important issue here is that there are times when you need to speak up. If I'm doing anything to make you uncomfortable, you should let me know immediately. Also, let me know if you get too warm or too cold, if the room is too bright, or if the pressure needs to be changed (lighter or deeper). If something is not working for you - speak up! It's OK! You won't hurt my feelings ;)
Do I have to listen to whale calls or flutes during my massage?
No. (Not that there's anything wrong with that lol.)
While many therapists play music with slow piano, bird calls or sound bowls, you can choose to have different music or no music at all.
I don't care what we listen to! I typically use Spotify so just ask for a band or genre that you're interested in, and I'll gladly switch to that. I typically listen to a downtempo album from the artist Sunlounger. I also have an 80s/90s slow jam "Quiet Storm playlist" and an "Acoustic soul" playlist as well. If you like a particular artist just ask. If you want pennywhistles and flutes we can do that too :)
How will I feel after my treatment?
Most people feel very relaxed. Some experience a significant decrease or freedom from long-term aches and pains. Many feel a little slowed down for a short period and then notice an increase of energy, heightened awareness and increased productivity which can last for days. If you've chosen to receive a massage with deeper pressure, you may be slightly sore the next day - much like a good workout at the gym. Sometimes a hot shower, or a soak in the hottub before you sleep that night can ease this soreness.
When should I not get a massage?
In my opinion there are few conditions which would prevent you from enjoying massage. You should not book a massage if you have a fever, cold/flu, or contagious skin infection. PLEASE RESCHEDULE if you exhibit any of the symptoms associated with COVID-19 or MPOX.
There are many other conditions in which I may need to adapt my techniques (i.e. knee/shoulder replacements) or avoid an area completely (i.e. cuts, burns, or a stint). With some conditions it is a good idea to get an approval from your physician before you receive massage (cancer, certain heart conditions, pregnancy). This doesn't mean you can't get massage. But it's always better to err on the side of caution.
I can advise you about your specific needs.
What if I get an erection during my massage?
Sometimes it happens, yet most men avoid massage for fear this will happen to them. Or they get a massage but are unable to relax because of this fear. But there's no reason to be embarrassed; honestly it's fairly common so no worries:) It goes, up, goes down, we move on. I'm in the wrong profession if I'm uncomfortable with bodies (shrug emoji)
Getting erections during a non-sexual, therapeutic, full body massage is normal. You're getting a massage probably to relax, remember?? Touch administered to any part of the body can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which can result in a partial or complete erection.
An educated, professional massage therapist understands this and it will not be an issue for them. If you are still concerned I recommend wearing more fitted underwear (briefs, boxer briefs, or jockstrap) which provide more support than traditional boxers or I can just completely avoid working on areas that may typically cause a parasympathetic response. Just let me know before we begin the session and we'll go from there.
